Brothers Of Heart
This is something many men don't know;
they think they have to make it on their own.
They have been left by their fathers, unmet by their friends, bullied by co-workers.
So they took a secret vow: This will never happen again.
Nobody shall ever leave them alone again.
Yet one day on a silent morning, on a hike in the woods or on a sleepless night with a hazy moon, they realize, they have been left again; this time by themselves.
They have left their longing to connect, to feel someone, to share their truth, to honor their beautiful heart.
All of a sudden, they look in the mirror of a tough truth.
To avoid being left, they have left themselves.
Yet when I meet men for years now, in sessions one-on-one and in circles, I see and feel how much beauty there is in a man's heart.
He might offer the rage of his wounds, his fear when being challenged; YES!
He might share his joy to feel nature or another being, his deepest insights, the way he sees the world. YES!
He might share the truth that sits in his body, in his tight chest, the broken heart, the bursting power in his arms. YES!
There is so much he can do with his magnificent body: protecting, harming, building, taking care of loved ones!
So the only thing I want to know then is:
What is his choice?
And I wonder: What is your choice?
What are you going to do with your beautiful life, man?
You have so much to give.
To strengthen men in manifesting their true selves, I founded an ongoing circle for men, the Brothers Of Heart.
They meet for 10 gatherings with specific themes.
This one is open to new men. Welcome!
In the gatherings, I will give guidance from years of work, and I will give space; to the truth of every man.
With the Brothers of Heart, I offer a space for men to support each other in a respectful way, to feel each other's hearts and powers and weaknesses making a difference by being a vulnerable, accountable man in the world.
Before the circle starts, every man gets the chance to get a free online call with me to find out if I and the circle can support you on your way.
What is it to be a man for you?
This is the magic question, and it needs to be asked moment to moment.
Because, I believe, to be a man is not a given.
To be a man is a constant stream of change; of mesmerizing, murky, muddy truths.
Coming together in the guided stream of consciousness with other men––this is true leadership. This is the River of Men.
Women birth boys.
Men birth men.
To find if this circle supports you, every man gets a free online call with me to find out together.
Just write an email to me to get a free 30 minutes online consultation.
I am looking forward to meeting you and supporting you in birthing your truth.
From my heart, Joachim
Guardian of the Brothers, Systemic Gestalt Therapist
Essay: The Birth of Man––What is the Hero's Journey for a 21st-century-man?
"The last year of being in the Brothers has been a place of deep support and sharing with other men, a place where I can truly be and explore myself as a man, something I look forward to each time we meet. Joachim's facilitation creates a warm and welcoming space where true transformation occurs."
Michael Thayer, USA
"I thank you from the bottom of my heart for the space that you make available to me as a person and especially as a man. The experiences I
have there help me to find my own way again. My path, of which I didn't know anything until recently and which I have left far too often in my life."
"The Brothers of Heart are my tribe of men. I appreciate that we are real with each other, we share how things really are, for us. I love that we are on a growing path together, learning new things, healing old stuff. And I love that we include the full range of what it means for us to be men, whether it’s wildness and fire, vulnerability, frustration, feeling a lot or not feeling anything."
Nicolas Amaya, Spain
How can you become the man you want to be? In a beautiful conversation, my dear colleague Gabriel Ellis talks with me about the benefits and challenges of being and becoming a man today. Why do many men lead their lifes as lone wolves? What is the benefit of it? How can we honor the need of a men more fully?
Thank you Gabriel for this inspiring invitation to deepen our awareness! More about Gabriel and his work here.
In this 3-minute trailer, you get a glimpse of the documentary "What is it like to be a man for you?". The full video clip is shown below.
For an enhanced experience you can activate subtitles in English (by clicking on the wheel icon in the lower bar of the YouTube screen)
Five men from around the world–Japan, Ireland, Palestine, and the USA–share their insights about what it is like to be a man for them in this touching video clip introduced by Joachim. They address the pressure of cultures, the vulnerabilities as boys, the maturity of bonding, and the accountability towards women (25 min).
For an enhanced experience you can activate English subtitles by clicking on the wheel icon in the lower bar of the YouTube screen.
To contact me and meet me for a free get-to-know online call, please write an email. I am looking forward to meeting and welcoming you! Joachim