My heart feels sweet when I am with my lover Juliana. With her, I am shy and vulnerable, daring, and fierce. I never experienced that abundance before until I used a key that was given to me long before. Yet only after years of exploration, I could open up my heart with it.
Once I had learned by my tantric teacher Eva that woman and man co-create ecstasy in exchanging their Eros like in a cycle of polarities. It seemed natural to me that
in this exchange Lingam was the giving pole and Yoni the receiving pole.
Eva included also the hearts in this cycle to make it more fun. While the woman would receive energy in her Yoni she would give energy through her heart to the man's heart.
Wait a minute. Now it got interesting.
To make this cycle work, the tantrics said, the man would take the energy of the woman's heart in his heart. Only this made the circuit between the genitals and the hearts of woman and man complete.
It took me years to feel the magnitude of this, and it changed the way I am as a man.
Just like the Yoni allows to let the Lingam's energy land in her––the ancient explorer of sexuality experienced over hundreds of years––the heart of a man allows the
energy of the woman's heart to land in him.
I can feel my heart when I write this. This is huge: My heart as a man is receiving energy just like the genitals of a woman.
On my exploration as a man, I started to realize what this means. On an energetic level of giving and receiving, my heart is my yoni.
This allowed a totally new perspective on my heart. How would I treat a Yoni? With care, adoration, sometimes fiercely but always with respect?
How if I would treat my heart with the same care and respect?
When I started to introduce this perspective in men's circles, men shared that they felt this is a shift of paradigm.
When a man loves his heart... like he loves a Yoni, the whole world changes.
After years working with it in men's circles, I deepened my awareness. Now I perceive sexual bliss as a dance of planets in our universes.
The lingam as the giving pole is like a sun beaming his energy towards the Yoni.
The Yoni as the receiving pole is like a moon letting this energy land.
My heart, as a man, is a moon heart, receiving the energy of the woman's sun heart.
With that awareness, I know that I have to take good care of my heart. It has different needs than the sun heart of a woman.
Sometimes men ask me, we as men also can give love with our heart so how can it be that we have a receiving heart?
I like to ask the man then to think of a moon as it shines in the clear dark sky. Does it give love? Oh yes. It just does it by receiving the light of the sun. But is it weak then? It moves oceans all over the world.
The power of the moon is different. We as men just have to learn how to relate to it with its beauty and needs when we connect to our hearts.
Since I learn to be with my moon heart, my love and sexuality with my beloved becomes a whole different universe.
Joachim C. Wehnelt
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