Brothers Of Heart

Becoming The Man You Can Be

The circle of men meets ten times in convenient video conference calls

and examines core questions for every man, regardless of nationality, sexual orientation or walks of life.

  • What is important to you?
  • What are you burning for?
  • Where do you want to go?

In a safe space, each man has the chance to look at his needs and deeds, to the connections towards himself, to other men, and women.

We explore power and weakness, love and sexuality, and the relationships to our ancestors.

All men in the circle support each other in a respectful way to feel each other's heart and powers

making a difference by being a vulnerable, accountable man in the world.


Trailer for a touching documentary of men speaking up

In this 3-minute trailer, you get a glimpse of the documentary "What is it like to be a man for you?". The full video clip is shown below.

For an enhanced experience you can activate subtitles in English (by clicking on the screen icon in the lower bar of the screen)

Joachim, guardian Brothers Of Heart


If you are a man who feels challenged by your intimate relationship or your job,

here is good news: you have a lot to offer.

It is something most men don't know.


You have to offer your fear or anger when being challenged by a woman or man;

your joy to feel nature or another human being;

the rage of your wounds;

the beauty of feeling the body and what you can do with it.


What most men don't know is: Your feelings are signposts to your essence.

Following them guides you through your struggles to your potential.


If you really embrace your shadow and your light,


there is only 1 thing left:

You have to make a decision; every day.


There are many films and images trying to direct us in these decisions by telling us how to be a real man.

Most of these images, I don’t like.

They are concepts trying to make a man a prototype with rules that harm women, other men, and the world.

They don’t ask:

What is it like to be a man for you,

in your life, your situation, your country?

And how do you want to contribute to life?


And I am interested in that.


Only by embracing your most individual truth,

you are able to take the unique light and shadow of yourself.


This is the decision you have to make every moment:

Which side do you take, light or shadow?

What do you co-create with it, in your intimate relationships, in your job, in the world?

This is your truth, your freedom.

Only this is real to me.


And here is more good news: You don't have to find your truth alone.


In my experience as a psychotherapist working with men for years now

what really helps is being able to explore the unique gifts of struggles and feelings in a safe space with other men.

This is why I created the Brothers Of Heart.


It’s an online community for men who care, for themselves and for others.


All men in the circle support each other in a respectful way

to feel each other's heart and powers and weaknesses

making a difference by being a vulnerable, accountable man in the world.


In this circle, you can count on the intelligence of all men participating.


I am happy to welcome you to the Brothers of Heart

to become real

by sharing your truth.


If you have any questions please feel free to contact me at



Gerfried, co-facilitator Brothers Of Heart


Participating in the Brothers of Heart, I experienced my diversity in being a man.

Due to the deep, warm, heartful and honest sharings,

we support each other.

Assisting now I have the heartfelt wish to enable other men to experience this space, too.


Q&A for Brothers Of Heart


On Saturday, January 12h, 2019, (at 8 pm Israel time, 7 pm CET) 

Joachim is welcoming men to get to know the chances and gifts

of the ten upcoming Brothers Of Heart gatherings starting

January 31th, 2019, at 8 pm Israel time, 7 pm German time.


What is burning in you, man, that wants to become alive?

Getting to know how the Brothers Of Heart can support you in feeling your fire and bring it to the world.

To be able to participate in the free Q&A, please register below.

You will get an email to confirm your registration. After that, you get the link to access the video conference call.

By signing in you also register for a Newsletter about the Brothers Of Heart.


Brothers Of Heart 2019


10 Meetings on  Thursdays


starting January, 31st, 2019

at 8 pm Israel time, 7 pm CET

  • January 31st, 2019
  • February 14, 2019
  • February 28, 2019
  • March 14th, 2019
  • March 28th, 2019
  • April 11th, 2019
  • April 25th, 2019
  • May 9th, 2019
  • May 23rd, 2019
  • June 6th, 2019


(Each meeting lasts 120 minutes. Language is English)


Price: 225 Dollar

(by PayPal. Monthly payment possible)

For discounts due to financial reasons please inquire


After you have registered and paid you get the link to the video call room we are meeting in.

No account needed. 

You just have to click on the link you'll get to have access to the circle.


Documentary "Behind The Scenes": An Invitation To A Journey

What Is It Like To Be A Man For You?

Five men from around the world–Japan, Ireland, Palestine, and the USA–share their insights about what it is like to be a man for them in this touching video clip introduced by Joachim. Within around 25 minutes they address the pressure of cultures, the vulnerabilities as boys, the maturity of bonding, and the accountability towards women. For an enhanced experience you can activate English subtitles by clicking on the screen icon in the lower bar of the screen.

Let's Make A Difference, Together

Six men in a boat, Petroglyph of Cobbler's Cliff (Skomakarhällen), Sweden by W.Carter [CC0], via Wikimedia Commons